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How do I make sure people know where I'm registered? I've heard it's not proper etiquette to tell people directly. |
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Traditional etiquette says that no, you should not directly tell your guests where you're registered. Often this duty lies with the mother of the bride and the bridesmaids, who spread the information by word of mouth. However, modern processes are changing things slightly, making it more acceptable to help people learn about your registry. A great place to start is by creating a Personal Wedding Page, where you can share lots of information about your event, including your registry. |
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I really don't think I want fine china, do I have to register for it anyway? |
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You're by no means obligated to register for fine china, although it's a wonderful thing to have. You may not plan on using it today, but ten years from now it might be of more interest and value to you. Part of a wedding registry is allowing all of your friends and family to help set you up for the things you will need for years to come. And china is also a great way to start an heirloom that can be passed down for generations. However, if you truly feel you'll never use china, or just don't want it, don't feel forced to register for it. You can register instead for some great everyday dishes that can always be dressed up by linens and decorative accessories for more formal occasions. And if down the road you decide you do want fine china, you can always look to purchase it yourself or create a new wish list at your favorite store! |
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Who traditionally hosts and pays for bridal showers? |
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Traditionally bridal showers are thrown by the bride's friends and relatives. So, bridesmaids, family friends, or aunts are the norm. Traditionally, the groom's family has not hosted bridal showers, although they should certainly be invited to participate. Often everyone pitches in to help with expenses, or if one person prefers to pay for it themselves, then their generosity can certainly be welcomed as well. Be sure to write your thank you notes! |
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I need to find a nice hostess gift for a family friend. Do you have any suggestions? |
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It's a nice touch to give the hostess something special and original as a thank you for organizing a party on your behalf. Our Wedding Shop's Friends & Family section that is a great place to look for Hostess Gifts. |
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Is it impolite to have items on a registry that are more than $100 dollars? |
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It's certainly within etiquette to register for gifts that have a range of prices. And the beauty of the registry is that each guest can choose which gift best suits their personality, wallet, or what they most desire to give you to help you start your lives together. For some additional help, use our How much to Register For quiz. It will give you a basic understanding of how many gifts and at what average price you may want to register for, based on the particulars of your wedding. Note this is an average price, so you will want to register for gifts both above and below this price. |
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We are planning to "elope" next year. We have invited our families and closest friends to join us, and then we will go out to a nice restaurant. Do we still register? |
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Absolutely! Even if you are eloping, you're still getting married: so you can most certainly register. Friends and family who will be joining you will want to buy you something to help you build your lives together. As well, there may be other close friends who, while not a part of the wedding, may want to send along their best wishes. And a registry is a great place for them to look to buy you items you and your future husband will enjoy. |
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I recently became engaged. Our wedding is 1 1/2 years away. When should we register? When do I have a bridal shower? I have so many questions!! |
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Congratulations on your engagement! Lucky for your and your fiancé, you have plenty of time to plan your wedding. Depending on what you and your family have planned, you may want to register soon, particularly if your friends and family have planned an engagement party for you. Generally guests will bring you a congratulatory gift, so creating your registry soon will help you build on the things you will want for your lives together. It also helps guests tremendously to learn through your registry what it is that you like so they can buy you something you'll use. You'll want to have your bridal shower closer to your wedding - generally a few months in advance. You can also see more helpful registry-specific ideas in our Getting Started and Registry Tools areas. |
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If you receive an invitation for an engagement party is a gift required, and if so, what kind of gift? |
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It's a nice idea to bring a gift to an engagement party, however small the memento, unless the invitation specifically mentions "no gifts." It's a nice gesture through which to send your best wishes to the couple and help them start their lives together. Assuming that you will probably also be giving them a wedding gift in the future, an engagement gift can be a smaller present. Or, if you're just attending the engagement party, you can give them an engagement gift and wedding gift wrapped into one. A great place to look for ideas is in the couple's registry. To purchase a gift you can find their registry online, or consider our Gift Ideas. |
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How do I get my fiancé involved in the registry process? |
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Some brides say it's tough to get the groom interested in registering. But think about areas of the registry that would pique his interest and then ask for his opinions. Does he like to cook on the grill? Think about registering for grill tools, and carving knives. Or is he interested in the outdoors? Put him in charge of registering for camping gear. Click here for more unique registry ideas. Most of all, make it fun for both of you, to ensure that you'll put your registry to good use. |
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How soon should we register? |
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Generally you should register soon after you are engaged, depending on how long of an engagement you are planning. But people like to be able to buy you an engagement gift, and often times friends will throw a celebratory party for your engagement. So give them an opportunity to buy you things you'd like to have. |
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What are great gift ideas for my bridesmaids? |
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There are lots of wonderful bridesmaids gifts, from picture frames to jewelry, as well as other keepsakes. Visit our wedding shop for more ideas. |
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Who traditionally hosts bridal showers? |
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Traditionally bridal showers are thrown by the bride's friends or relatives. So, bridesmaids, family friends, or aunts are the norm. However, it's often considered against etiquette for the groom's family to throw a shower for the bride, although they should certainly be invited to participate. |
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Should I purchase gifts for my parents? |
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It's a nice idea to remember your parents on your wedding day. Often times they've put in a great deal of effort to make this day special for you. And to them, they are seeing their child "grow up" on this day as well, so it's a very sentimental time for them too. No matter how small the momento, they are sure to appreciate it. One idea: a nice picture frame to hold a picture of you and your husband taken on your wedding day. |
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Should I register for engagement party gifts? |
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Absolutely. Some people may feel funny about registering at first, uncomfortable that they're the center of attention and people will be buying them gifts. But realize that it makes people happy to share in your joy and buy things that will help you start your lives together. However, if you truly feel uncomfortable with gifts, consider having people donate to your favorite charity in your name. And, realize that some people may bring gifts anyway, so you should still be prepared to write some thank you notes. |
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Should I give my husband-to-be a gift on our wedding day? |
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Traditionally the new husband and wife exchange gifts on their wedding day, but it's not mandatory. Often times a bride gives a groom a watch, a set of cuff links, or the like. It is nice to have even a small exchange of momentos, to remind you of this significant and joyful day. |
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